How I breathe is in my control. How I view every moment is too. Is the universe friendly and on my side? Is everyone trying to undercut me? Am I lucky or unlucky? Do people drive me crazy or do I see a lesson in that relationship that has been selected for me and by me?
Lately I have noticed that people seem to rely on elementary school rationale like, "No fair! No budges!! Why can't I have one?...WE operate with integrity and virtue where as THEY obviously are not." It seems this lens (that we choose) protects us from reflecting on what our contribution is to the situation or if it is really ours to be concerned with. Ask why does this matter to us. Have you found yourself