I would totally be friends with Liz-- no real friends. She passes my very serious test of real womanhood/friendship worthiness. Face it, we really have no time to mess around with pretend 'real' friends. My top ten reasons why Liz and I should be real friends, not just Facebook friends...
- She is over 40. No time to deal with ladies younger. Sorry. Diets of hard boiled eggs and celery, the latest Pinterest find for the next holiday party, preschool teacher gossip etc. --no thank you. Been there, done that.
- She has been married more than once~ and may consider calling her first marriage a 'mulligan' marriage, as I do with my first marriage. "Dad, a girl only gets married a couple of times... I want it (the reception) the way I want it ...... sheesh."
- She is hilarious and doesn't seem to take herself too seriously.
- She has roots in Minnesota via her fantastic mother....Vikings/Gopher Loyalty Trait.
- She seems to embrace the 'funny but wrong' element that I have recognized and accepted in myself. This is a non-negotiable friendship characteristic for me.
- She has drunk stories about animals and mating calls in the dark woods that may have ended in either unfortunate cross species consummation or bodily harm inflicted by a very frustrated critter-dude.
- She is a 'laugh out-louder.' Not everyone can do this. It takes authenticity and security. I have a reputation as a unabashed laugh-er. Especially in Megan McCarthy movies. Or watching Bob's Burgers. Or listening to Jenny Lawson books. I cannot help it. Funny but wrong, is my jam.
- She is wicked smart and welds some decisive opinions. I like that, a lot.
- She wear hair 'parts' from Target. Damn right. Owning it all-including the reasonable price tag.
- She goes from the airport to the hotel bar and THEN to an appearance in a church.
Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic has started creating ripples of power and beauty across the world, and what a beautiful legacy. The ripples are evidenced in my own heart, where the words, "other people's conclusions/opinions about you-- are not your business" blew me away. Shut the front door. Speechless, mind blown, who knew? These words opened my heart and released a heaviness I hadn't recognized existed and left clarity, a sense of simplicity and relief laced with grace.
My spirit believes in real magic and things we cannot see or understand. I have always known these truths. My sister once looked a me suspiciously when a note of doubt crept into my voice about the nonexistence of St. Nick..... 'Seriously, Kris. There is no Santa.' I was in my early 40's and still didn't acquiesce. I simply shrugged and refused to say more.
If you have seen the movie, The Rise of the Guardians, there is a scene about Santa's special gift- his center-is wonder. His ability to see the wonder in all things and show others wonder as well. That is my center, my gift as well. Everything about everything can leave me speechless and in awe. I love that. Everyday.
Liz doesn't preach to throw caution to the wind and quit your day job, and join the profession of creatives.... she challenges us to find (again?) that which makes us light, and elevates our spirit and makes us feel connected and alive. This is a book about redefining what is 'necessary' in our lives and making room for what is 'necessary' for us to feel alive.
Other nuggets I love:
- Argue for your limitations, and you get to keep them.
- Perfectionism is a fancy way to say you are afraid.
- Leann Chin makes the air smell delicious..... wait, that was me, on the way home from work one night.
- Perfectionism is a serial killer.
- Done is better than good.
- Ideas live and seek out collaborators.
- Creativity unused in not benign.
- Say yes.
- Stop being so attached and shackled by the result of your work.
- Creativity is not about the product...it is about the dance, the flight, the process, the sating of your restless spirit....the connection with that, that is timeless and ageless.
Big Magic has big power and will provide the inspiration & spark so many have needed....complete with its own permission slip.