How I breathe is in my control. How I view every moment is too. Is the universe friendly and on my side? Is everyone trying to undercut me? Am I lucky or unlucky? Do people drive me crazy or do I see a lesson in that relationship that has been selected for me and by me?
Lately I have noticed that people seem to rely on elementary school rationale like, "No fair! No budges!! Why can't I have one?...WE operate with integrity and virtue where as THEY obviously are not." It seems this lens (that we choose) protects us from reflecting on what our contribution is to the situation or if it is really ours to be concerned with. Ask why does this matter to us. Have you found yourself
When we determine whether something is really ours to worry about, be involved with or to judge, then we can stop the perpetual state of 'fuss and stew' many become trapped in. Fussing and stewing about a situation that isn't "ours"....only creates fear. Fear of our own self worth, fear of not getting 'ours,' fear of people really knowing us (so we deflect attentions to others' perceived shortcomings).
Peace floods you when you can say, no, this isn't mine to worry about. I choose to believe positive intentions are driving those involved (true or not...matters not). I will continue to believe this until I have concrete evidence to the contrary. When we exercise control over our interpretation filter of the world around us; peace appears as a byproduct of this surrender of fear and adoption of love. Control of the right thing can bring peace.